Wednesday, March 18, 2009

some good questions...

I was left a comment by an anonymous reader yesterday. After much consideration, I decided to delete the comment. I totally did not mean to be disrespectful in doing so, but some of the questions in the comment were just a little personal in nature (in my opinion)! I know people are generally curious about our family's situation, (having and infant and expecting another so soon) so I thought I would take a moment and address just a few of the questions that were posed by this reader.
~To the commenter...If you by chance read this and still have more specific questions, I would love to talk with you off line, like through email. I am happy to share with you information about the adoption process, but feel more comfortable sharing specifics off-line. I hope you understand.~

Here are a few of the questions:

1- "How do you feel about adoption? I know you love her (Sophie) as much as your boys, but did that feeling of love come immediately?"

I can tell you, and I'm sure any other adoptive parent out there would agree, YES... that feeling of love does come immediately! Shane and I knew that God had placed this strong desire for adoption on our hearts years ago. We just knew it was part of the Lords plan to grow our family! As we were in the adoption process, waiting for our Sophie, Shane and I would spend time praying together every night for this child we knew God had already picked out for our family. Even though Sophie didn't physically grow inside of me like the boys did, that same joy and anticipation you feel when you're pregnant, filled our hearts as we waited for her. When we got the call about our Sophie and they placed her in our arms for the first time we were smitten!!! All our prayers had been answered and our dream had come true!!!

2- "How do you feel about the upcoming birth in just a few weeks? Are you scared to have two babies under 8 months at home? How will you care for both?"

Honestly, we are so... excited to add another child to our family. Shane and I always knew we wanted a large family. I am the oldest of six children and consider it such a blessing to have so many siblings. Christmas, birthdays, holidays, and vacations are the absolute best!!! We love to be together and have a blast when we are!! Shane and I desire our children to grow up in much of the same way I did. We want our children to experience the joy and excitement of having lots of siblings around. Just the same way we feel about each of our children, we consider this new addition a true gift from the Lord. We also think that it's GREAT for Sophie to have a sibling so close to her age. Not only will she have a built in playmate, but she will have a best friend for life!!! How cool is that?!?

Yes, we do realize that having two infants at home will keep us busy, but we also know that they are only infants for a short amount of time. Shane is able to take several weeks off of work when this baby does arrive, so he will be home and available to help. I also have ALL my family living with in minutes from our home! When Shane does return to work, my mom, sisters, and grandma will be around whenever I need them!!! I know I am so blessed to have so much help!!!

Thanks so much for the comment and questions!


Melanie said...

Jenny what sweet answers & I know that they are heartfelt and true. You are the most wonderful mom with SOOOOOO much love for each one of your little ones! It is so amazing how God gives our hearts the capacity to generate love that overflows...the same way He pours out His love on us! And you are such a beautiful example of that...your heart for loving & giving is immense! You & Shane are wonderful parents & each one of the children God has chosen for you is blessed to have you, just as you are blessed to have them!
I think the gift of a large family is indescribable, the special bond between siblings is so awesome! And I love how you are raising your children to love, care for & enjoy being with one another--to be each other's support & friend, just like you have experienced with your amazing family!

Jessica K. said...

Ohh I loved your answers!! I asked myself how it would be to have two small ones, but then I thought about ppl who have multiples. They can do it and you have so much help! So that wont be a problem! I am sure the big brothers cant wait to have another little one to hold and play with!!
Do your boys share a room? Your house must be huge!!! I hope the nursery is coming along! Can't wait for pics! I have loved following your blog!!

Have a great day!

Darlene said...

It is great to hear your heart on some of these things. I know that when we proclaim God's callings and tell how we have responded, God will work through us to inspire others.

I love hearing about your call to adoption because God has placed that call in my heart and is working it in my life.

Mary Ann said...

You said that very well! Trust me I know about all the comments. But Like I posted a few weeks ago. I look at it in a way that I get to witness and esp. about adoption! Remember God will not give us more then we can handle!Children are a reward from the Lord! No matter how they get into our arms;0)

Melanie said...

That was beautiful, Jenny! I wouldn't trade having a big family for anything. It is the best. I can't wait to "see" baby Hudson.

Kristin @ Blue Skies said...

You are the epitomy of a great mommy!

Terri said...

I have been praying for you this week, Jenny! I miss our soccer field chats!! Our kids aren't able to do soccer this season, unfortunately. Your response here was very graceful, just like you. I know your heart is full of love for all the children the Lord blesses you with! I am so excited and happy for you and Shane. Blessings, my friend!

Krystal said...

I found your blog thru Kelly's Korner. And as an adoptive mother myself, I just wanted to tell you that I love your answers in this post. Our situation is a little different, as we don't have children of our own and we didn't adopt a baby...but I've had people ask me all the time if I loved them instantly. And the answer is always YES!! Its amazing, but I loved them before we had them in our home...that was just God working in our lives.