Monday, March 10, 2008

Adoption Cares and Concerns

I want to preface this by saying that I totally understand the nature of international adoption and how unpredictable it can be. I also realize that things could change and turn around overnight, but these are some of the concerns we are dealing with right now...
Over the past few weeks I have become increasingly more and more concerned about our Ukraine adoption. I have been following several families as they blog about their personal Ukrainian adoption story. Several families have left their SDA appointment (meeting in Ukraine) without being shown any child's profile that match their families request. Other families have chosen a child and then traveled hours to that orphanage only to meet the child and realize they are in poor health or have major medical needs the families were not told about. I have also noticed many families are coming home with children a lot older than they requested.

We are concerned because we are praying and hoping to adopt a moderately healthy girl between the ages of 18-36 months. We chose Ukraine based on several factors including cost, time frame and availability. Now it appears that either we misunderstood some of these issues or the Ukraine is undergoing some changes. Like I said before, we understand the nature of international adoptions, but this seems to be a lot to process and understand.

I have read wonderful stories too. There are children who are finding wonderful homes and being united with their forever families. This just seems to be the exception and not the rule right now.
Please pray for us as we walk this emotional and sometime scary journey. Pray that God would give us peace and calm our anxious hearts. Pray that He would continue to direct our steps.

I trust Him completely and know that He is the One who is ultimately in control of our adoption... I just have to remind myself of this time to time!!!!!!


adoptedthree said...

It is easy to be discouraged but we are all called to adopt for different reasons. Ukraine can be a crazy place but people do find their children, even when others do not. You must just believe and pray and take the journey or you will never know what the outcome could have been.

Tami said...

Keep trusting.

It is so easy to become discouraged when we look at the situation from our perspective. But what we have to remember is that God sees the whole picture...and He knows how all of this ends. No matter what path He takes you down, He can use the results for His glory.
Maddie is a great example of that! Yes, she is older than we wanted...and yes, she has some physcial issues, but she is perfect in our sight and in the eyes of God.
And remember while it seems like it, the SDA is not the one in control...God is. When you are in His will He takes care of everything! :)